Round 17 ended on a positive note so I was pumped and excited. Online dating would be my means of getting out and meeting people. Expect nothing and you'll never be disappointed! If only it were that easy.
Of course I continued to get emails from men looking for one thing...delete! A few more crotch shots too, how disgusting. One guy had all nude photos of himself on the profile. I was shocked it hadn't been deleted. I reported him, yet his profile was up for weeks before it disappeared. He was an upgraded member so his profile was always front and centre.
I sent out a few more introductory emails, but no responses.
On your mark, get set, go! Round 18:
15. Mr. Firefighter
He was 46, divorced and had a young son. He was tall with light hair and an average build from what I could see in the picture. He had a nice smile. His profile was short and kind of serious. The introductory email was nice and he enjoyed my sense of humour. He wasn't crazy about emailing or texting, preferred to meet and talk in person. I agreed. Talking in person is way better and the only way to determine whether or not there's potential.
We emailed a bit then he suggested we meet for coffee. He was working nights, so we'd wait until the following week. The emails continued and then I told him what days would work for me, but he never responded. After a couple of days, his profile was gone! Oh well, next!
16. Mr. Hockey
He was 53, divorced with 2 daughters and a grandson. He was tall, pale skin with white hair and blue eyes. He lived outside of town and coached hockey in his spare time. There wasn't much information in his profile. I figured he wasn't much of a writer. It said he was slowly gearing down and getting ready for retirement. His interest was hockey. Not sure we'd be a match, but I responded.
His emails seemed odd, like they were system generated. They were repetitive and full of spelling mistakes. He insisted he wanted to meet for coffee, I was to pick the location and day. Ok, I responded Monday night at Bayshore, which was roughly the half way point for both of us. He agreed, but never followed up to confirm so I assumed it was off. I sent an email on the Monday evening and told him that since he didn't confirm, I would not be going. He wrote back days later and it was the identical email insisting we meet for coffee. I deleted it. A week later I received the same email again. It is wasn't system generated, he was copy pasting. I blocked him. Obviously there was something fishy going on.
Interesting that right around that time my brother-in-law happened to mention he had a friend that was being paid by online dating sites to create dummy profiles and send emails to women claiming to be interested. This was supposed to encourage members to upgrade their memberships and keep them hooked. How dishonest is that? At this point I guess nothing should surprise me. It's all about the all mighty dollar. They don't truly care about people finding love, simply string them along and charge them through the nose.
17. Mr. Large Family
This guy was actually responding to one of my introductory emails! He was very flattering and thanked me for my email. He was 51, divorced with grown children. He was tall with a stocky build and salt and pepper hair. The profile was well written and he looked good in his pictures.
We emailed for a bit, then he said we should meet. He was going away for the weekend for a family event, so he'd be in touch when he got back. I noticed he was online daily, but he never wrote again. I did my part and had no intention of begging. His loss!
18. The Entertainer
Another guy who responded to one of my emails. He was 53, divorced with 5 children. Only one child was living at home and there was a grandbaby on the way. He worked in sales and lived in the country. His profile and pictures showed he loved to cook and entertain. We had a few interests in common.
We emailed a bit, then he asked if he could call. We had a good conversation and he complimented me on my profile. Food was huge for him. He came from a large family. He hosted most holidays at his house. Some common ground as I loved to host dinner parties too. He loved kids so my young children were not an issue. Work required him to travel a bit, but he was slowly cutting back and letting the newer employees take over.
We talked a few times and he wanted to meet for drinks. All of sudden he felt I lived too far away and didn't think it would work out. I wished him luck with his search. Good-bye!
19. Mr. Prefer to be Single
I sent an introductory email to a gentleman who appeared to have the qualities I was looking for as well as several common interests. He was 53, tall, with a larger build. He'd never been married or had children, but his profile said he had several nephews and nieces he loved to spoil and coached kids' sports. He was open to meeting a woman with children. According to the site, he hadn't been on in over a week. It looked like he didn't go on often, but I took a chance and wrote to him.
He wrote back right away and told me he'd been on POF for over 2 years and I was the first woman to write to him. The next day I noticed he had upgraded his membership. We wrote back and forth several times and seemed to be on the same page. He suggested we meet in the market for a walk. I agreed. The day before we were supposed to meet he sends me an email stating that he'd been single for so long that he had become accustomed to being alone and it was probably best to stay that way. WTF? Was this guy serious? If you have an active profile on an online dating site, are you not looking for someone? Not to mention he upgraded his membership and I noticed he was now online daily. Unreal! No point in wasting anymore time trying to figure this one out.
20. Mr. CRA
He was divorced and 46 with a young son in joint custody. We were the same age and both worked for the feds. He was tall with a stalky build, dark hair and light eyes. He was a great writer. The profile was very well written and he was funny. Sports, music and movies were the bulk of his interests. He enjoyed dancing and being the life of the party. He also did some MC work at special events.
We exchanged a couple of emails, then talked on the phone. He was funny and had a great voice that would be perfect for radio. I could see why people would want him to MC special events. He also loved to cook so we exchanged recipes and ideas that would encourage kids to eat more veggies. He invited me out for dinner and I accepted.
Before our date, he sends me a text. A crotch shot, lovely! I was less than impressed. I chalked it up to bad judgement and deleted it. We arrived at the restaurant at the same time. Oh my, he was way, wayyyy bigger than in his profile picture. There's no way it was recent, he also looked much older and worn for lack of a better word. That's 2 red flags! Over dinner he went into details about his medical issues. Gee, let me guess weight and heart problems??? It got better, his ex-wife married his best friend and he was currently living with his ex-finance because he was stuck on the lease until the Fall (only 9 months away!). Yeah right. Major issues with finances and his ex wouldn't give him back the engagement ring or pay for it. Really? At this point there were too many red flags to keep track of. To summarize, he was looking for a place to crash rent free with a side order of sex. I'll get right on that...NOT! The nerve of some people.
After dinner he wanted to go to Aren't We Naughty. He thought it was going to phase me or freak me out. On the contrary, it would be a lot more fun than dinner! Sadly it was closed. A couple of days later I emailed him and told him he was not a good match for me and wished him luck with his search.
I'd had enough to last me for a while. What a terrible round! What was up with these guys??? Time to take a break.
Dateless in Ottawa
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