29. The Pipe Fitter
He was a bit older, twice divorced with a grown daughter and 2 young sons. He was tall with dark hair and light eyes. It was a well written profile and there were quite a few common interests, family and entertaining being at the top.
His introductory email was very complimentary and he injected some humour. We moved to the phone quickly and had some great conversations. The divorce was nasty and he was not on good terms with his ex, but they had joint custody. He lived fairly close, seemed nice and was easy to talk to. We spoke a few times and then he asked me out for breakfast and I accepted.
He was attractive, looked much better than his picture. He was polite and attentive. As soon as he saw my truck, he was in love. Breakfast was going well until he started going on about his ex-wife, having a restraining order and how he'd been arrested twice. I asked him if the restraining order was still in effect and if so, whether he had to be careful and abide by conditions. The answer was yes to both questions! What? He almost sounded proud, like he was bragging about it. Then he went on to tell me how me and the kids would be moved into his place within a few months, he was going to sell my truck to buy a boat and when my house was sold we'd buy a cottage. WTF? The engagement ring was in the works, a big diamond. I told him I hated diamonds, he said too bad that's the tradition so you'll have to wear it. ??? No one tells me what to do or sells off my assets, nice try!
Let's just say this was over before it started. When I wrote and told him I was not interested in getting involved with some with a record, he was extremely insulted. He wrote me a very nasty email accusing me of convicting him and went on and on about how that was years ago and it was no longer in effect. The judge had reversed it and apologize. WTF??? I specifically asked if it was still in effect, why would he say yes if it wasn't? The divorce was recent so he was lying again. This guy was beyond delusional so regardless, I was not interested. I will not compromise my security clearance and put my job as risk for anyone. I'm all for being honest, but holy shit! Just when you think you've heard it all.
30. The Marine Consultant
He was 53 with dark hair and dark eyes. His profile said we was 6', divorced with 2 grown sons. He was previously in the merchant navy posted in Cuba and was now a Marine Consultant. The profile mentionned something about a laryngectomy, but I didn't think anything of it. He had a Spanish background so it was nice to talk in Spanish. I had been to Cuba that winter so we talked about the different places and Havana. Cooking was one of his passions and fish was his specialty.
We eventually spoke on the phone. He was very complimentary and charming, typical Latin male. He soon asked me out for dinner. It was up to me to choose a restaurant, but he really wanted to cook me dinner. I accepted the dinner invite. He'd make the main course, I'd make dessert and bring the wine.
As soon as I saw him, I was taken aback. He noticed right away and apologized. Now I knew what a laryngectomy meant. He'd had throat cancer and his voice box was removed and replaced with an external device that allowed him to speak when he pressed on it. He thought he had told me, no he didn't I would have remembered. When we spoke on the phone I thought he simply had a deep voice, I never suspected it was due to surgery. He definitely wasn't 6' tall, maybe 5'8, if that. To his credit, the chivalry was there and he was very polite.
He had said he was a Marine Consultant so I asked what that entailed. His response was that he worked for himself. Really? Well as it turns out he wasn't working, hadn't since he was diagnosed with cancer in 2010. He was collecting disability benefits, but as far as I was concerned he lied. The food was great, but soon after I excused myself. He texted a couple of days later wanting to make more plans. I was honest and said I didn't feel a connection and we were not on the same page. He seemed upset and didn't agree with me. Such is life. For me when honesty is lacking, you've lost me.
31. Mr. Goldwing
We were the same age. He was tall, stocky and had dark hair and eyes. He was divorced with a young daughter. His profile was very short with very little information.
The introductory email was simple, but nice. We emailed back and forth for a bit then texted. He didn't seem to want to talk on the phone. His job required him to work shifts so his schedule was a bit unpredictable and when he was off he tried to spend time with his daughter. He suggested we meet for coffee on his day off. I said I'd like to speak on the phone first. He didn't respond.
A few days later he started texting late at night. He was upset and told me he just sold his Goldwing at a loss because he needed the money. His ex-wife had been cheating, she threw him out, he was living in a shitty apartment, hated his job, didn't get to see his daughter much. etc.....I asked him if he wanted to talk. He got mad and said he was upset, the last thing he wanted to do was talk to anyone. WTF? Then why was he texting me??? Good bye, next!!!
32. The Arab
He was tall with dark hair and light eyes. He had an athletic build which is not what I gravitate towards. The profile said he was separated with no children. His interests included travel, music and movies so we had some common ground. He had an Arab background and was new to Canada. He worked in IT.
He wrote well. We emailed a few times then all of a sudden he became really crude and disrespectful. Turns out he was newly married, but bored and was looking to have some fun - in other words sex and he was not shy about it. It was blatantly obvious he had no respect for women. I told him to go get a life. In this country women have rights and we don't have to put up with bullshit from idiots like him. I blocked him. I won't tolerate that behaviour from anyone. Enough.
As hard as I try, I can't figure out men. It's really hard not to develop a complex. How is it that all of these idiots find me? I wondered whether my profile had a subliminal message in it somewhere that was attracting them. "Dishonest, needy, self-centered, dysfunctional, sex crazed, angry with the world men, apply here!" I went through my profile with a fine toothed comb and I could find any evidence to that effect. Does normal exist? What is normal? Maybe I'm the one that isn't normal?
I need some sleep. If only this was just a nightmare!
Dateless in Ottawa
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