Now that Summer had arrived, I decided the best way to approach online dating was to focus on getting out and enjoying the sunshine. Having a reason to go out and meeting new people is a great way to unwind when you have a busy and stressful job. When things don't work out, laugh it off and treat it as a form of entertainment. If nothing else, it would give me plenty of material and stories to make my friends laugh over dinner or drinks. At the end of the day, expect nothing and you'll never be disappointed.
Round 24. Ready, set, go!
41. The Executive
He was very tall, bald with light eyes. He was separated with 2 children and joint custody. His profile was hilarious and he dared women to contact him. Not long after I had viewed his profile he wrote to me.
The introductory email was funny and very flattering. We wrote back and forth then moved to texting. He worked for a large corporation. When I logged back in to look at his profile again, I noticed he lived outside of Montreal. Initially I thought that city was in Ontario, but it wasn't. I pointed this out and he was surprised as well. Odd that I appeared in his matches when I fell outside of his acceptable distance. As luck would have it he worked in Ottawa a few days a week so he said it was not an issue for him if I'd be willing to give him a shot. I figured I had nothing to lose.
He was interesting and told me he was a cancer survivor. Shortly after his ordeal, his wife left him. They were in the midst of a nasty divorced. He enjoyed his days in Ottawa. They gave him a break from the drama and a change of scenery. He said if nothing else, it would be nice to have a friend to show him around and share a meal with when he was in town.
We continued to communicate then made plans for the next time he'd be in Ottawa. The day before we were supposed to meet, he sent me an email stating his ex had just been diagnosed with a terminal illness. His children were devastated and he needed to cancel his trip to Ottawa. Sooner after his profile was deleted and he stopped emailing and texting.
42. The Wine Broker
He was 47 divorced with 2 boys around the same age as my kids and joint custody. He was tall with dark hair and dark eyes. We had many similar interests. He had travelled around the world extensively and spoke several languages. He had a British background. His profile was funny and very well written.
His introductory email was funny. He asked why he hadn't seen my profile sooner. We moved to texting almost immediately then the phone. He was a great writer, even in Spanish! We made plans to meet for drinks, but then at the last minute we changed our minds and met for dinner instead. We arrived at the exact same time. He looked far better than his picture. He was quite attractive and had a really nice smile. He also had chivalry nailed down.
He was the wine expert so he took the lead with the drinks. We talked about everything and anything. I don't know where the time went. It was a very enjoyable night, time flies when you're having fun! He had to get home as he was picking his boys up in the morning. He walked me to the van and snuck in a kiss, it was nice. It seemed as though neither one of us wanted to leave. He said he had his boys the coming week, but we'd touch base and get together again soon. Lunch was an option because we both had flexible schedules.
We texted throughout the week, then one afternoon I texted to ask how he was doing. He responded with a rude text. Later that day he wrote to apologize, said he was having a really bad day and didn't mean to take it out on me. As a parent I can relate. I waited a couple of days and sent him a quick hi. Never heard from him again. Another disappearing act.
43. The Tank
He had an awesome profile, one of the best I had ever come across. It was written in the form of a resume. He was the same age as me and a former soldier. Also very attractive with that bad boy kind of look. He was divorced with two girls. I absolutely had to write and compliment him on his profile. Based on his interests I didn't think we had much in common, so didn't expect a response. Just wanted him to know he had a great profile and wish him luck.
A few days later, he wrote back! We emailed back and forth then moved to the phone. I honestly wasn't expecting to hear from him. He seemed really nice. We had great conversations and finally decided to meet. He seemed guarded and indecisive. I was working and he said he'd stop by and we could go grab a coffee.
He looked better than his picture. He was tall and very polite. I took my break and we walked to a Timmy's. I was disappointed that he didn't even pay for coffee, said he didn't want anything and went to the washroom then came back with juice. We had a good conversation, but he sounded very angry. Him and his ex were on bad terms, he didn't see his girls much and had been forced into a medical retirement from the military. He was also very much a country boy and I was a city girl. I enjoyed talking to him and it would have been nice to stay in touch. Exchanging our dating nightmare stories was fun. He blew mine out of the water. His first official POF date was with a transvestite! He was seriously scarred, it almost drove him to drink! After that he was very cautious. He'd also been taken for numerous rides so avoided lunch and dinner dates. He insisted on walking me back to work which I really appreciated. He was very polite and a nice guy.
He wrote a few days later and said he didn't feel a connection, but felt very comfortable talking to me. I wished him well with his search and told him it would be nice to continue to exchange stories, we could write books with all the stories we had! May as well take the bad experiences and turn them around to make a profit. He laughed and thought it was a great idea. We emailed a few times and we've seen each other through work.
So far I was successful. I had accomplished what I initially set out to do. I met a couple of new people and got out. At least I had very pleasant conversations and dates. These guys were nice and very polite, just not for me. The round ended on a positive note, I couldn't ask for more.
Stay tuned and have a great weekend!
Dateless in Ottawa
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