I went away for a much needed vacation. Escaping the daily routine and work made a huge difference. I came back refreshed and ready to face the world, or at least tackle another round of online dating! Lol During my vacation I broke my ankle, but this wasn't going to stop me. I could use the injury to further test the limits of chivalry! My colleagues and the guys at work were awesome. They'd call when we had meetings and offer to pick me up and drop me off. Co-workers laughed and said I was better off than our Deputy, I had several drivers!
12. Mr. Multiple Personality
He was tall, with dark hair and eyes. He was a couple of years younger. The status said separated with a young daughter with joint custody. He had recently moved to Ottawa for a promotion. His email was very charming. Up to this point "separated" usually meant very married so I was cautious. We soon started texting, talked a few times then met for coffee.
He was definitely tall, 6'3 and looked far better in person. We had similar family backgrounds and European decent so we laughed at stories about our huge family dinners, holidays and our parents' accents and interesting habits. I felt a connection, but there was something that didn't feel right. I trusted my gut and kept my guard up. We talked and texted often and went out a few times. I continued to go on other dates which made him upset, but he was doing the same thing. As far as I was concerned we weren't in a relationship so I didn't owe him anything. He was doing the pursuing, but I wasn't biting. It was obvious he was accustomed to getting what he wanted. He'd met his match, this chick was no push over. You need more than good looks and charm to win me over.
His story changed often. The ex and his family were in Toronto, he'd won custody of his daughter and moved her to Ottawa, then he had kidney stones, the ex was visiting for a week.....He'd disappear, then reappear. The profile was deleted, then back up again. Eventually I'd had enough. Weeks later there was a new profile, guess who it was? Only this time his name was different. Worst thing was he was stupid enough to view my profile so of course I saw his picture and recognized him. I wrote to him and called him out. He was pissed off. It all made sense now, he wasn't separated. Another married moron playing games online. He deleted his profile, but a few days later he created another one and changed his name yet again. You'd think he use a different picture, but no it was the same one. He wrote telling me how much he enjoyed my company and how he was struggling with what to do. He needed time to sort things out. In the meantime we could be friends and hang out once in while. Friends??? I told him he was dreaming in technicolour. Friendship means there is trust, kinda hard to do when he doesn't even know what his name is, he keeps disappearing and his story changes constantly. I asked him if he was suffering from multiple personality disorder, he claimed he had to protect his reputation. That was hilarious and he posts his picture on POF for millions to see? I wouldn't trust this guy as far as I could pick him up and throw him (at his size, that wouldn't be very far!). It was guys like this that ruined it for women who were honest and seriously looking for a relationship. I told him to grow up and get a life. He kept emailing so I blocked him.
13. The Financial Investor
This guy was 62, recently widowed and had no children. He was tall with auburn hair and light eyes. From his profile pictures he seemed very active and appeared younger than his age. The age stumped me a bit because my kids were young. I had doubts this would be a good match.
He was a great writer. I was upfront about my kids and their ages, but he insisted on meeting. We went for lunch. He owned his own investment company, loved to travel, enjoyed cooking and entertaining, had a passion for skiing and loved fast cars...many of the same things I liked. He'd just purchased a new toy and had already gotten 2 speeding tickets in less than a week! Two lead foots, we'd make a great couple! We also lived close to each other. The conversation flowed really well and we had a nice time. On the other hand, he was a jet setter that could pick up and go on a moment's notice. His company pretty much ran itself and he was able to manage it remotely. Recently he had travelled south for a wedding and on a whim decided to stay for 3 months. I couldn't do this with my kids, school and work. As much as it would have been fun and exciting, there was no way it would work at this stage in my life. We exchanged recipes and talked about the different countries we had visited. He was a very interesting man and intellectually we are on the same page. I was open to friendship, but he wanted more. I sincerely hope he finds what he's looking for, he has a lot to offer the right woman.
On a positive note, this demonstrated that there are some really nice guys out there. Sadly they are far out numbered by their lying, cheating counterparts, but it gave me some much needed hope. Eventually I would find my match. Chances were this was going to take a long time so I needed to learn to be more patient.
14. Mr. HVAC
He was a bit older, 52 and single with 2 girls. He was average height and build with dark hair and eyes. His profile was hilarious. One of those you never forget. It was obvious from his introductory email that he had a great sense of humour. "So, are you drowning yet?" It was short, but I laughed and had to respond. My opening line had been, "Jumping in with both feet and holding my breath!" For status he had - dating but nothing serious. I was looking for long-term, but who knows you have to start some where.
We quickly switched to texting and learned that our work overlapped. He worked in many of our buildings so we understood each other's work. It was really neat to be able to talk about the different challenges we faced. If you don't work in government or have contracts with a government department, it's difficult to understand processes and why it takes so long to do something simple. Having kids of the same age also gives us plenty to talk about along with trading tips and tricks on how to handle certain issues.
He extended an invitation to meet and I suggested we make it more interesting by comparing online dating stories and whoever had the best one, would get treated by the other. He thought that was a great idea. We met at Dow's Lake. It was weird because when I arrived he seemed to be hiding and kept his distance. He extended his hand to shake mine, but then a look of relief washed over his face and he pulled me in for a hug. He later confided that his last date looked like she'd just rolled out of bed. She was dirty, didn't look anything like her picture and hadn't brushed her hair or cleaned up. He wasn't sure what was going to show up and was pleasantly surprised and relieved when he saw me. I laughed when he said, "You smelled so good!" He looked better than his picture and also smelled nice. Lol
Dinner was a riot. We laughed the whole time. Of course, my dog collar story blew his stories out of the water so he paid for dinner. Afterwards we went for a walk. This is the gentleman I was with when we were attacked by the squirrel in the park. That little bugger had a great arm! We walked back to the parking lot. He was blown away by my truck. I swear some times my truck gets more attention than I do!
The chemistry was there and we always have a great time, but with our kids' sporting activities and work schedules, it's very difficult to see each other. As it relates to relationship goals, we're not on the same page either so we've remained friends instead. He's a great cook so it's awesome when we can get our schedules to work and he cooks me dinner! We've had some interesting dates. I think one in particular scarred him for life. I burst out laughing every time I think about it! I'll tell you all about it in another post.
Two nice guys in a row, wow who would have thought! Finally things were looking up and dating was becoming more fun. Even if I didn't find "the one" I was getting out, meeting nice people, having fun and making friends.
Until next time!
Dateless in Ottawa
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