"Think Positive,
Be Positive and
Positive Things Will Happen"
Maybe there's some truth to it. By the same token, the men in Round 24 were decent which made it easier to remain positive. Unfortunately I still hadn't found "the one" so my search wasn't over.
I was ready for Round 25!
44. Mr. Engineer
He was tall, with dark blond hair and light eyes. He was divorced with two girls in joint custody. He was a great writer and from his profile pictures I could tell he liked to travel and try new foods. His build said athletic, but he looked more on the stocky side to me. He was a couple of years older.
He wrote and we quickly moved to the phone. We had great conversations. He was fascinated by my job. He had recently been laid off after a very long career with the same company, but within 2 days had found a temporary job until he could find something better. This really impressed me. He was definitely ambitious and very determined. He wanted to meet, but I was leaving on holidays at the end of the week. I said maybe we should wait until I got back. He insisted we had to meet before I left, he didn't want to wait. We met for lunch and had a great time. He looked better than his picture and was a perfect gentleman. One thing that I found odd is that he said he wasn't into brands or designer labels. Really? Not sure why he felt the need to say that given that he was wearing Hilfiger head to toe, a very expensive designer watch and had the latest and greatest mobile device. Whatever. He mentioned he hadn't been on a date in 2 1/2 years. I was flattered and happy that he had a nice time.
We made plans to sign up for Latin dancing when I got back from my holidays. He texted while I was away and he was very thoughtful. I didn't hear from him the third week, but he had mentionned he had plans to go away with his girls so I figured he was away. I touched base when I got back. He responded immediately telling me how he'd gotten back together with his ex the week before and was trying to work on their issues. He wished me luck with my search. Sadly what he failed to mention when he told me he hadn't been on a date for 2 1/2 years was that he had been in a relationship and had only broken up with his girlfriend the day before he put his profile up on POF. He then wrote to me the same day. Geez talk about not letting the sheets cool off! I guess some guys just can't be alone.
* Note to self: In future I will ask how long they've been single. The "separated" category is also very ambiguous and open to interpretation so I'd have to be careful. My preference was to meet someone who had resolved all issues from his past relationship(s) and was ready to move forward.
45. Mr. Pet Shop
He was a bit older, average height and build with blond hair and light eyes. He was divorced with 3 older daughters. His profile appeared under the new users. He lived in the country and worked for the feds.
The introductory email and his profile were very well written and we seemed to have a lot in common. He loved my profile, said it made him laugh out loud. We wrote for a bit and then talked on the phone. He also owned a pet food store. I called and tried to prank him one afternoon. I had him going for a while, then he paused and said, "Wait a minute, is that you C-----?" He laughed and said he'd have to keep an eye on me.
Soon after he suggested we meet for coffee or a bite. I agreed and told him to decide what and where. It took forever for him to decide. He kept flip flopping. I'd never met someone so indecisive, it was beyond annoying. In the meantime we kept talking and he started making plans for dates 2-4. I told him he was having a hard enough time nailing down our first date so maybe he should focus on that one. Finally he decided on lunch at the National Art Gallery.
We ran into each other on the way, it was like he planned it perfectly so he could escort me across the street. He looked a bit older than his picture and was sporting a pony tail. Not my kind of look, it was a bit too hippy-ish for my taste. He seemed really disappointed when we arrived at the café and it was more of a cafeteria style. He apologized and said we could go somewhere else, I said no we had a great view we should stay. It was a beautiful sunny day. The view of the Parliament and the Ottawa river was perfect. We talked for hours. We worked in some of the same circles and he travelled a fair bit. Finally he said we should probably go and save some conversation for date #2. He also detailed what he wanted to do for date #4, it would be up to me to decide what to do for date #3. He seemed excited. We walked to his car and he offered to walk me to mine, but I had to pick up some groceries in the market so I told him he could walk me next time. He gave me a hug and off I went.
I didn't hear from him for a bit. Then he said he was busy with a relative's birthday and his oldest daughter was coming up for the weekend. He said we'd be in touch soon. I invited him to go to a movie the week after. He declined saying he had company, but he'd take a raincheck. I didn't write him again, nor did he. For someone that sounded so anxious about future dates, it didn't make any sense. Not long afterwards his profile was gone. Oh well, next!
Work got busy, so I decided POF needed to go on the back burner for a while. I hid my profile. What's that saying, "Quit while you're behind?" I wasn't quitting, but definitely needed a break so I could focus on work and come back with a fresh outlook.
Stay tuned!
Dateless in Ottawa
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