This post will compliment the one about what not to talk about on a first date. We all have our intricacies and unique qualities. Some good, some not so good. Below is a list of things one should try to avoid on a first date and always! Most of these should be pretty straight forward. Proper manners, respect and common sense go a long way. If you're hoping for another date, try to refrain from the items listed below whenever possible. When in a relationship this should continue, be considerate.
Keep in mind, these are simply things that annoy me derived from my personal experiences. At times I may sound a tad picky, but you are free to form your own opinions. I'm sure many could come up with their own lists.
1. Burping or passing gas
Yes, these are normal bodily functions. Most of the time we get warning signs when they are going to occur and the right thing to do is to excuse oneself and find a private place where you won't offend/disgust anyone, ruin their appetite or pollute the air they are breathing (especially bad when it happens in a confined space like a car or during a romantic moment!). At times they come without warning and we can't control them, if this happens apologize or crack a joke. When possible, strive to control or delay the bodily function for a more appropriate time and/or place.
2. Brushing or combing your hair at the table
Honestly? Shouldn't have to be mentioned, but it applies to both men and women. By the way, don't apply your make-up at the table either. Chances are there's a washroom close by, please use it.
3. Being rude to wait staff or employees
Be polite and considerate. You won't score any brownie points if you're rude, obnoxious or talk down to staff unnecessarily. Even when getting bad service, one can be firm while maintaining a level of professionalism, class and political correctness.
4. Use cutlery, crystal or mirrors to spent most your time admiring yourself
During a date is not the time to partake in vanity. If you're that in love with yourself, chances are you don't need a date. Major turn off! I'll further add that if you need to "adjust" yourself or correct a wardrobe malfunction, probably best to excuse oneself and find somewhere private. Nothing more annoying than a guy constantly putting his hand down his pants.
5. Do not floss while sitting at the table
Totally disgusting! Very effective way to get your date and probably some of the people sitting at the tables close by to get up and move, perhaps even leave!
6. Picking your nose.
Should probably be reserved for a private moment. Same applies to blowing your nose although this can be done discretely. Best to excuse oneself and go the nearest washroom or somewhere away from your date and others.
7. Shower in cologne or perfume.
In an age where allergies are rampant, be mindful of others and the possibility of sensitivities to scents. Having your date gag or sneeze uncontrollably when you get close to him/her is a sign that your smell is a bit over powering. While you're at it, no spraying perfume or cologne at the table.
8. Make weird noises while eating or chewing with your mouth open.
Both equally unappealing. We are human beings, not animals. Let's exercise good table manners.
9. Wiping your dirty hands on your clothes and/or licking your fingers
Not very attractive. I'll make an exception if you're eating messy chicken wings or finger foods, but even then, use a napkin and go wash your hands especially if you plan on touching your date.
10. Licking the plate when you finish eating.
As much as this could be seen as a compliment to the chef, when you're out at a restaurant this won't look good. Highly unlikely you're starving to the point you have to lick all traces of food from your plate.
11. Nail biting
Not pleasant to be sitting across from someone you're trying to have a conversation with when they constantly have their fingers in their mouth. Chewed cuticles and next to no finger nails does not look good either.
Enough for now, have a great night!
Dateless in Ottawa
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