9. Mr. Medical Supplies
He was divorced, same age as me, had 3 kids older than mine and worked full-time for a pharmaceutical company. According to the profile, he was the same height as me, had dark hair and dark eyes. One son lived with him the others with their Mom.
He was a good writer and we had some common interests. He also had a mixed background and travelled extensively. Based on his profile pictures he seemed like a really fun guy with lots of friends and a passion for travel. We emailed for a bit, then he asked if he could call. The first time he called he could barely speak. I was at a loss, this had never happened to me before. Usually I'm the quiet shy one. He said I made him nervous and he didn't know why because he never freezes up like this. I kind of took that as a compliment, but at the same time I felt bad. I had no idea why I would have that effect on a person. We didn't talk very long. He emailed the next day to apologize and wanted to take me out for lunch to make it up to me.
We met at the restaurant. He was much shorter than he had stated in his profile and bigger than his picture, but he was very polite. We sat down and ordered. Once again, he froze. It was obvious he was nervous and sweating buckets. He was tongue tied and could barely speak. It was cute for the first few minutes, but after a while I was getting a bit fed up. We ate and he loosened up a bit. He told me about his ex-wife and his ex-girlfriend. I think I liked it better when he couldn't speak! There were also issues with his kids and finances. Suddenly he looked at his watch and said he had to go, he was going to be late for a meeting. He paid the bill and we left. I started walking to my truck and he ran over and walked me the rest of the way.
Shortly after I got back to work he called to apologize for ending the date so abruptly. He was nervous and had to get back to work, but wanted to make sure I wasn't upset or offended. He said I looked great and he had a nice time. I was indifferent. I told him not to worry I had to get back to work anyways. He said he'd call. Over the weekend he called and asked if I'd go to a friend's party with him, but I had plans. We talked and emailed a few times after than, then he disappeared.
Months later his profile was back up and he added me as a favourite. He emailed me to say he'd been dating someone and things didn't work out. My response: "Welcome back! Best of luck with your search. Hope you find what you're looking for." I think I made it very clear that I wasn't interested. NEXT!!!
10. The IT Specialist
He was 47, divorced with 2 daughters. Apart from working full-time for an IT firm, he also had a small business on the side helping non-profit groups with their IT requirements. He had a European and Middle Eastern background and enjoyed fine dining and travel. When we spoke, he told me about his girls, how he had joint custody and his family background.
We met for drinks a few days later. He was tall (taller than I expected!) with dark hair and light eyes. He dressed well and I liked his accent. We had a really nice time talking about work, family and travel. A while later a rowdy group of guys came into the restaurant and started breaking glasses so it was time to go. He insisted on walking me to my truck. I love watching men's reactions to my vehicle. Totally not what they expect. He had parked far away so I insisted on driving him to his car. When I dropped him off he gave me a hug goodnight and asked me to text him when I got home to make sure I made it ok. We texted for a while that night and he said he wanted to see me again, but wasn't sure I would agree. He thought I looked uncomfortable towards the end our date. I was fine, it was the rowdy guys that ruined it for me. They were so loud we could barely hear ourselves. It really changed the mood in the restaurant, especially when they started breaking glasses and spilling drinks.
We went out again and I very much enjoyed his company. He'd been through a nasty divorce. His ex-wife got the house and most of the assets. I got the impression there were some financial issues and they were not on speaking terms. He wanted to see me again and I accepted. The chivalry had my complete and undivided attention. Not long after I found he was regularly wanting to make plans, but my kids had activities. When I asked him when he had his girls, he seemed to get annoyed. I reminded him he said he had joint custody so I wanted to make plans around both of our kids' schedules. He said he didn't believe in categorizing or labels. What? As it turns out, he did not have joint custody. His ex was awarded custody. He saw his girls if/when they came over to his place which was usually Saturday mornings. If they stayed over, they'd leave around lunch on Sundays. It was obvious he was trying to fill in all his free time during the week and was upset that I was busy. Weekends were off limits, unfortunately that's when I had the most free time!
A few times he talked about meeting my kids, but as far as I was concerned, no one was going to meet anyone's kids anytime soon. Not that he even offered to introduce me to his daughters, I got the feeling that was out of the question. He seemed like a really nice guy and I wanted to get to know him better, but I was in no rush. I hid my profile. He said he didn't need to go in there anymore, but when I logged in to check he was on there daily. He claimed his android logged him in automatically when he turned the phone on and he didn't know how to change the settings. An IT expert and he can't change the settings on his device or hide his profile on POF? Sure! We went out several times and eventually one thing lead to another. I was really put off when he rush me out the door because his girls might be coming over. Was he a teenager having sex in his parents' bedroom? Seriously? Another time I forgot my sweater. He said the whole apartment smelled like me. He loved it, but had to explain to his girls. Are you kidding me? Way too complicated for me. Suddenly the texts and phone calls stopped. NEXT!
11. The Waiter
I work on the Hill often and out of the blue I got an email from a guy saying he'd seen me at work and recognized my picture on POF. He was smitten and wanted to get to know me. Sounded like a story line from a movie, but hey stranger things have happened. We'd both be working on the Hill later that week so he suggested we meet afterwards. His profile picture didn't show his face, but it said he had blond hair and dark eyes. He was a couple of years younger, was divorced and had a young son.
He knew what I looked like so I was at a bit of a disadvantage, but I was game. When I was done working, someone came up behind me and kissed me on both cheeks. I was completely caught off guard. One of my employees was close by and I thought he was going to clock this guy across the head until he realized I was ok and knew him. I recognized him right away, he'd gone to school with my brother. We talked for a while and then I had to head back to the office. I made a few calls. This guy was very married. He called later that night and I asked him a few questions. He insisted he wasn't who I thought he was. Really? I knew his family name and there were several mutual friends, he couldn't deny it. Ottawa is way too small to play these games. When I mentioned I had spoken to my brother and sister, he panicked and said it would be best if we were just friends as my brother would never approve of him anyways. Gee, maybe because you're married??? Unbelievable!
Things were not looking good. I did more searches and sent several introductory emails. A few responses came in saying they didn't think we'd be a match, others said they were already seeing someone. Interesting that their profiles were still up and they were on POF every day! Whatever. The majority didn't respond. I told myself to stay positive and not give up hope. The best things in life come to those who wait. I had to learn to be patient. Not an easy feat for a Latina, but I'd work on it! Lol
Time to plan a vacation and get away! A change of scenery would help me clear my head and come back refreshed and ready to hit the ground running for Round 17!
Dateless in Ottawa
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