A friend sent me some feedback on my blog. He pointed out that I should revisit some of the adjectives I used as they can be misinterpreted and paint me in a bad light.
My writing is simply a means of focusing my creative energy, while trying to vent a bit. These are my real life experiences, as crazy as they may sound, along with my thoughts, observations and opinions. It is not my intention to judge or insult, nor am I trying to endorse or bash any of the service providers I mention. I respect the opinions of others and welcome feedback. Again, these are my opinions based on my observations. I agreed with his suggestions and went back and made some minor changes.
Other random thoughts:
Having a Spanish and Latin American background, family is everything. Religion and food are strong contenders for second place! Lol I had a very strict traditional up bringing where respect for others was extremely important. Manners, morals and ethics were drilled into us. My parents came to Canada with nothing and worked extremely hard to support their families back home and ensure their children would want for nothing. Don't get me wrong, necessities were not the same thing as wants. Food, shelter and clothes on your backs were never lacking, but forget about the brand names or $100.00 running shoes. Can you believe they met and less than a month later they were married???
In our culture you care for parents and grand-parents as they get older. We may not always agree on how things should be done, but there is mutual respect and this translates to all relationships. What really stood out for me, was the chivalry. Dad opening doors for Mom, helping her with her coat, letting her sit first at restaurants, walking on the outside of the sidewalk, etc. He also did this with people he met on the street, opening doors, saying hello, please and thank you, offering his seat on the bus if a woman got on, helping others with their packages or stopping to help someone change a flat tire, always giving at church and helping the less fortunate in the community.
Dad always says, "If you're not going to do your best, don't waste your time and everyone else's. You don't have to be perfect, but if you've given your all you have something to be proud of." They taught us the value of money, to work hard, be kind and help others.
Mom was funny, but tough. She'd say, "A woman needs to be independent and should know how to do everything all by herself without having to rely on anyone, but a real man will do it for her." Had we not learned to cook, she would have disowned us all. My sister and I were well versed on cleaning, cooking, running a household, caring for children and a man. She was a stay at home Mom, but also babysat and catered from home. Dad didn't touch a thing inside the house aside from maintaining the cars, household repairs and cutting the grass. She'd lay out his clothes, make his breakfast, pack his lunch and the list went on and on. No wonder he was so lost when she passed away. Times change and not always for the better.
Looking back at my online dating experiences with some of the men, these qualities appear to be lacking. I find it sad that the world has changed to the point where simple things like honesty and respect are misused or virtually non-existent. Society is becoming too disposable, much like appliances that don't last 35 years like they used to!
At times I may sound harsh, but I'm simply expressing my opinions. Maybe my expectation are too high or unrealistic, but a girl's allowed to dream. I think all children, girls and boys, should be taught about chivalry and all those important values and morals. The world might be a better place with a bit less heartache and frustration.
But then again, I wouldn't be able to entertain you with my blog!
Dateless in Ottawa
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