After failure upon failure on the free site, the paid sites had to be better. This is what I told myself and truly hoped I would be right.
Match.com
They sent weekly matches, but I hadn't logged in since I created my profile. I crossed my fingers and held my breath. The site was very bright and really drew you in with all the colours and graphics. I pulled up my matches and sat dumb founded. The list came up and what did I see? Sadly, I recognized five of the guys from Lavalife! Are you guys kidding me? Can you believe three of them were even using the same username and profile on both sites? This was not encouraging. So much for my theory that paying members would be more serious. Oh well, I told myself not to give up hope and carry on.
I viewed the profiles of the guys I didn't recognize. Some were way off. They were outside of my acceptable distance. One guy was in California, how could he possibly be within 50 km? Another guy was in South Dakota. So much for entering my preferences.
I wrote to their customer service email to complain. If I was going to follow their rules to guarantee my success or get my money back, they had to abide by my preferences and acceptable distances too!They responded a few days later and apologized stating there must have been a glitch in their system and this should not happen again. If I had any further problems, to call their customer service line for immediate assistance. Ok, they have a great level of customer service which was reassuring.
As per their rules, I was to write to each of the candidates on the matches list they sent, so I did and waited for them to reply. In the meantime I learned to navigate the site, do searches and view profiles. I even looked at a few women's profiles to compare them to mine and see if there was anything I should change or add. Many of the profiles were very similar. Qualities like honest, single, great sense of humour, faithful... were repeated over and over. I had to change mine a bit so it didn't look like I copied and pasted someone else's. At the same time I wanted to stand out and inject a bit of humour while being true to myself.
I'll further add, that as I searched through the profiles, I found more and more guys from Lavalife. It was interesting to cross reference them between the two sites. "F as in failure" for originality as the majority were using the same profile and username on both, except on Match.com they claimed to be looking for a long-term relationship. Yeah right! Hopefully eHarmony would be better, but I'll focus on Match.com first and then check out my profile on eHarmony.
Enough for one night. I had to think about how I wanted my profile to read and wait for my matches to respond to my introductory emails.
Dateless in Ottawa
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