One of the most interesting components on a profile is "Status". I'm surprised at how many categories they have. Depending on the online dating site you are using, they may vary slightly.
3. Status
a) Single - this one makes sense and it's logical. We're on a dating site looking for someone so it stands to reason you should be single. This of course means you are not married or in any way attached, contrary to what some may believe. Single is pretty straight forward if you look up the definition. Not sure how a man would get confused and pick this by mistake.
b) Married - this one doesn't make sense to me. If you're already in a relationship you don't belong on a dating site. Kudos to the men who at the very least are honest and admit to being married. More admirable than their lying counterparts who pretend to be single or divorced or worse - widowed. Leave your wife and sort out your life before you mess up someone else's. Funny how a wife will track down the woman her husband is cheating with and accuse her of being a home wrecker. Really? I guess the fact that your husband is a lying cheat isn't relevant. Nice to have someone else to blame, isn't it?
c) Living Together - for me this one belongs under the same category as married. Living common-law or married is one and the same to me and legally as well, depending on what province you live in. If you're living with someone and unhappy, move on before throwing another person into the mix. Wait let me guess, you need to find someone to give you an excuse to leave? Or better yet, you're stuck in a lease together and the landlord won't let you sublet and you can't afford to pay for 2 places? Please spare me I've heard it all. Resolve your past and then move on. And no, I think most women would agree they are not looking for a three-some.
d) Divorced - they should add a note that this means legally divorced and not based on how pissed off you are at your wife or your personal interpretation of what divorced means. If you're not happy and it's over, why are you still there? Chances are if you haven't left your wife already, you won't. You're simply looking for sex and having fun. Sadly the women you lie to and use wind up getting hurt.
e) Widowed - means you were married, but sadly your spouse passed away. Unfortunately this is my category. My husband passed away almost 3 years ago. Being widowed qualifies you as being single and available. Healing takes time, don't rush.
Absolutely horrible when people lie about being widowed. You have no class and severely lack scruples. Are you looking for sympathy? Is that how you think you'll find a woman? This is lower than low. Reminds me of another story, I'll have to go back and add it to Round 11!
f) Separated - from my experience, this means very married and screwing around. Again, they should add a note that this means legally separated only! Please see #'s 2, 3 and 4 above.
And I saved the best for last!
g) Not Single, Not Looking - forgive me, but WTF? Let's re-interpret this one. So let me get this straight, you're not single which means your married and you're not looking, but you have a profile on an online dating site? Can you please explain this? I'm sure many people out there would greatly appreciate some clarification on this one. It's beyond contradictory and makes absolutely no sense to me. Correct me if I'm wrong, but if you're not looking you shouldn't be anywhere near an online dating site. Who the heck came up with this category and what kind of a man or woman would choose it? I look forward to getting feedback on this one. I could be totally wrong in my interpretation and will gladly apologize if I am.
Personally I think there should only be 3 categories: Single, Divorced or Widowed. Just my two cents.
Sorry, gotta go add a story about Mr. Widowed to Round 11. Enjoy!
Dateless in Ottawa
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