Ok, so I already discussed profile pictures. Time to discuss other components you need to fill out when creating an online dating profile.
1. Height
This should be straight forward. For those who are unsure about their height, you can pull out a measuring tape (should be easy for most guys, they usually have one kicking around) or ask your doctor. Why do guys have to lie about their height? Do you think a woman isn't going to notice?
When a guy tells me he's 6'0, depending on what we decide to do for a first meeting I'll wear my 4" heels making me 5'11. This is my stealth way of determining how honest he was on his profile. Interesting how many guys are not as tall as they state in their profile. One guy said he was 5'11 so I wore 3" heels making me 5'10. When I arrived at the restaurant and walked over to him, I was looking down at him. Then there was Mr. Former Football Player who was probably 5'10 yet claimed to be 6'3.
How important is height? For me I'm already tall at 5'7 so I would prefer someone who's taller than me. Not to say I wouldn't date someone my height, I have on a few occassions and I have lots of flat shoes too! Sorry, but the whole Nicole Kidman-Tom Cruise look is not for me. When I'm out with a date, I don't want it to appear like I'm out with my son. Heck, even my son is taller than me! It's my personal preference, to each their own. Ultimately why lie? Makes me wonder what else you're lying about? As we age we do tend to shrink a bit so you might be off by an inch, but we don't shrink that much! When you're off by inches, then it becomes wishful thinking on your part and out right lying to your audience. Oh let me guess, you made a mistake? Hello, go back in and fix it!
As it relates to height, I'd say about half the guys I met were not honest about their height. In one case I met a guy that was taller than what he put on his profile. That was a pleasant surprise. See it's the whole under sell over deliver thing, it works every time! :)
2. Body Type
Another component that can be very confusing, subjective and open to interpretation. Everyone has a different opinion on what the following categories mean:
a) Slim - For me this means very skinny, thin or lanky.
b) Athletic - I find there can be a very broad range on this one. A guy can be muscular and bulky like a body builder or the opposite end of the spectrum where he's got toned muscles, but is slim like a cyclist or a runner.
c) Average - First you have to establish what average is and according to whom. I think normal and typical could also be used as adjectives for this category.
d) A few pounds over weight - Another one that's open to interpretation. Define "a few extra pounds"? Is it 5, 10, 15 or 20 lbs? Then you have to determine what "normal" is to figure out whether or not you're over weight.
e) Big and Tall - Tall doesn't necessarily mean you're big or overweight so this one is a bit off for me. Big according to who and what is the definition of big? A few more pounds than "A few pounds overweight?" Stocky, heavy set, cuddly??? Your guess is as good as mine.
Some quick Canadian height and weight stats from Maclean's
Average weight:
Women - 155 lbs
Men - 187 lbs
Average height:
Women - 5'4
Men - 5'9
Average clothing size:
Women (dress size) - 12
Men (pant size) - 38
I was surprised to learn this, but it left me feeling really good about myself. Certainly gives you some perspective on what average is and where you fit in. Makes it easier to determine what category you should pick for your profile.
A few things to keep in mind:
- This category refers to your present body type, not what you had 25 years ago when you were the quarter back in high school or when you got your black belt!
- Always better to under sell and over deliver. When in doubt, always pick the category one level above what you were originally going to pick. For example, instead of "average" pick "a few extra pounds." Your date will be pleasantly surprised that you are smaller than she thought.
- At the end of the day, your opinion of yourself does not count - Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
- Remember, confidence is sexy - arrogance is a major turn off!
Personally I prefer the tall stocky build. I want a man that can wrap his arms around me and I practically disappear! Plus, he has to keep me safe and warm. Lol
Overall I think most of the guys I met were pretty bang on in terms of how they described their body type on their profile. A few were dreaming in technicolour refusing to accept they are no longer in high school.
More to come another day. Have a great night!
Dateless in Ottawa
No comments:
Post a Comment