As I mentioned in my previous post, I think guys are a little easier to please than women. Of course you'll have people sitting on either extreme of the scale, but you have nothing to lose and so much to gain!
Things that have worked for me:
1. Lingerie
- I had to put this one first, although I've dated 2 guys that totally hated it and felt it was a complete waste of money. I was so disappointed, who doesn't like lingerie??? Even I love to wear it whether I'm single or attached, makes me feel sexy. Get something in his favourite colour. Show up in a trench coat with nothing on underneath! The options are endless....
2. Prepare his favourite meal and have a romantic dinner at home
- What has the biggest impact? Slaving away making his favourite meal from scratch when he doesn't expect it. My Mother always said, "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach". Add some candles, soft music in the background and away you go. Yes, lingerie might be a good idea too! Lol
3. Give him a massage
- This will usually make a guy melt. If you can, take a basic massage course. You won't regret it!
4. Surprise him at work on a smoldering hot day with his favourite cold drink
- Keep it simple. Amazing the effect an ice cold bottle of water has when your guy is doing physical labour in 40 degrees of heat with humidity.
5. Make him heart shaped cookies or cheese cake in his favourite flavor of course
- It will be a nice sweet surprise.
6. Do an activity your guy enjoys
- Go out and shoot some pool or play golf. You might not necessarily like the same things he does, but making an effort will score you major brownie points. I suck at pool, but my date had a blast and laughed all night long at my expense. I would totally do it again. He was impressed that I made the effort to do something different. Not sure I'd be able to convince a guy to join me at yoga class, but who knows!
7. Send him a racy text or email
- You want to get his complete and undivided attention? This will work. Just be mindful not to get too carried away as you never know where in cyberspace your message or pictures could end up. If it's a work email address, be cautious you don't want the wrong person reading it.
8. Give him a pedicure
- Many men think pedicures are a waste of time and a sign that a woman is high maintenance. They just don't get why women get pedicures. With the exception of my husband who hated anyone touching his feet, I tell you this too will make your man melt and he'll look forward to pedicure dates with you. Ladies, any man who will agree to pedicure dates is a keeper! His hands might need a manicure too, but one thing at a time you don't want to overwhelm him. Lol
9. Buy him tickets to a sporting event and send him with his friends
- We all need time out with our best buds to let loose and catch up. This is a great gesture that he'll thoroughly enjoy, at least most guys will. Besides, distance makes the heart grow fonder so be ready when he comes home.
10. Surprise him with a night at the Nordik
- This is a great way to relax and decompress after a long week. If you can squeeze in a couples massage, bonus. Simply hanging out in the baths, sharing some appetizers and having a few drinks under the stars makes for a perfect romantic night.
11. Running my finger nails up and down a guy's back usually gets his attention
- I have long nails and I find men squirm in delight when I run my nails up and down their back, chest or arms. I've been told it feels amazing and there's minimal effort required on my part.
12. Get him a gift
- It could be something he collects or that has a special meaning. His favorite chocolate bar, a key chain, vintage toy, whatever. At the end of the day it's the thought that counts. Remember, the best things come in small packages.
13. Make him a music CD
- Pick songs that have special meaning to the both of you mixed in with some of his favourite tunes that don't play on the radio often. When he plays it, he'll think of you.
14. Leave him a sexy voice message
- Planting a seed of anticipation couldn't be easier.
15. Bring them meds and soup when they're sick
- We all know how serious and debilitating a cold can be for a man. Not to mention they usually won't seek medical attention. Bring them some home made soup and a bottle of Advil, Tylenol or cough syrup. They'll never forget and owe you big time. Lol
16. Leave a note in a pocket or somewhere he's bound to find it
- Put it his lunch box, coat pocket, boot, on the seat of his truck, anywhere. What a nice and unexpected surprise just to let him know you're thinking about him.
17. Breakfast in bed
- Who doesn't like to be pampered? Plus, why get out of bed on a lazy weekend if you don't have to?
All of the above have worked for me and many of my friends. Talking to my guy friends, they totally agree they would appreciate most of these gestures. I'm working on convincing them they'd love a pedicure and a manicure too! ;)
Obviously if you're in a long-term relationship or married, you can be far more elaborate and perhaps a bit racy. No one knows your mate better than you do, so you can decide what, when, where and how. The sky is the limit, be creative and don't hold back.
Give it a try, you have nothing to lose!
Dateless in Ottawa
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