What is up with men lying about their age? I think I've come across 10 profiles in a row of men who posted the wrong age. Most younger and two actually older. Then they state in their profile that they are really whatever age and don't know why they can't change the date. Really? Cause maybe you entered it incorrectly on purpose? The site clearly states there's a time limit for making changes or corrections. Obviously you chose not to fix it so you'd appear in searches you would otherwise be excluded from! Heck the easy solution is to delete the erroneous profile and create a new one, but I guess that would be too complicated and too much work for most. Lying is so much easier. Mistakes can be made as none of us are perfect, so for some we have to give them the benefit of the doubt, but really? We're adults, let's stop with the deception and games. When creating your profile, if you are unsure of your date of birth, refer to your birth certificate, driver's license or passport. If that fails, call your Mom as I'm quite certain she'll remember or for those men who are married, ask your wife!
I laugh at profiles where men admit they purposely entered the wrong date because they are interested in older or younger women and want to ensure they appear in their searches. Fessing up and admitting you lied about your age on your online dating profile is all fine and well, but it doesn't make it right nor will is score you brownie points. Already you've demonstrated you're dishonest, what else are you lying about?
We all have our preferences. If I state in my profile that my acceptable age range is 40-50. I expect the men appearing in my matches to fall within this age range. I don't care what your excuse is, if you fall outside of this range I'm not interested.
Looks like I may have to start asking the men I date for a piece of valid government identification to confirm their age. Sometimes just by looking at the picture it is blatantly obvious they are far older or younger than the age stated on the profile. Hilarious when you ask a guy his age and it doesn't match the details on the profile.
Guy: "Oh is that what is written on the profile? Must be a system error, I'll have to figure out how to fix it."
System error??? Sure cause you didn't know the age showing on your profile???? Whatever.
Yes, some of us are blessed with genes that makes us look younger while others don't age quite as gracefully. Sooner or later the truth comes out, so why lie and play games? Be proud of where you are in life and how much you've accomplished. Respect yourself and others. Life isn't always fair, but much like you have your preferences, so do others.
Some would argue that age is just a number. For the most part I agree, but when you look at the big picture, age can significantly impact a relationship. The topic of age is far more complex than a simple number. It's not to say it doesn't work for some, but in general from my experience it doesn't work. Large age differences become more apparent the older we get.
Many factors can impact a relationship when we're talking about age:
1. Stage in life
- career
newly in the work force, close to retirement, retired, entry level, promotions, travel, shift work, hours, over time, career goals, education, unemployed
- finances
high debt, no debt, mortgage, credit cards, lines of credit, savings, investments, financial goals, social class
- children
number of children, ages, educational needs, health needs, basic necessities, extra curricular activities, joint custody, special needs, behavioral issues
- flexibility and adaptability
common interests, personal interests, personal needs, willingness to try new things, ability/desire to relocate
- health
overall health, medication, physical fitness, mental health, special needs, accommodations, limitations, abilities, strengths
2. Religion, beliefs and customs
values, cultural differences, religious customs, traditions, ceremonies, family customs/beliefs, morals, habits
3. Life experiences
- travel
- education
- work/career
- accomplishments
4. Whether or not you have children
- Do you understand a child will always come first? Blood is thicker than water regardless of age.
- There are greater financial responsibilities attached to having children.
- When someone doesn't have children they many not understand that they will not come first. A parent puts the needs of their child first. The younger the child or children, the greater the dependency and amount of time they require from their parent(s).
5. Personal preferences
- life style
- interests
- habits
- personality
6. Social environment
- family
- friends
- colleagues
- team mates
- social circles
It's complicated. Have fun, but be honest. Pretending to be something or someone you're not will eventually blow up in your face.
I'm warming you up for the wonderful men of Round 35. Brace yourselves!
Dateless in Ottawa
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