Minutes after posting my profile, the emails started coming in. This time I was going to limit how much time I spent on POF. It's too easy to become addicted. In the preferences I set it up so that I'd get a notification when an email arrived in my inbox. No more logging in constantly to check. I would try to log into my account only once a week. Before long, there were 4 emails so I figured it was time to log in and read them.
I'll start my numbering at 1 again, this way it doesn't look nearly as bad!
1. Mr. Produce
We were the same age. He was divorced, average height, with dark hair and a 6 year old daughter. This guy had written a few times during my many rounds of online dating, but I didn't write about him in my other posts. He's one of the ones I had forgotten about. In the past we had communicated and he sounded ok initially, until he started going on about having a financial investment company and how he helps others make money on their investments. Sadly I think he needed to take his own advice or seek the advice of a real financial advisor so he could make some money as he was still working at a grocery store as a produce clerk. Not to sound shallow, but when someone uses the phrase "I live a very simple life" 5 times in their profile, to me this = major financial issues. Funny when guys don't even remember they've already written to you in the past. I haven't changed much over the years and my name is not common. I should have been recognizable in my pictures. He was persistent and felt we'd be a good match. I responded that we had communicated previously and we were not a suitable match. I wished him luck with his search.
2. Mr. Entrepreneur
Another repeat customer! He was slightly older, tall, with dark hair, single and no kids. His profile went on and on about all the businesses he owned and his successes. This guy had also written previously using various different user names. One of the fast and furious writers that suddenly vanishes as quickly as he appears. It was one message of flattery after another. He was using the exact same profile picture for years. Interesting how some of these guys never seem to age! I was amused and figured I'd play along. Sure enough, within a few days he disappeared. The profile had been deleted, but wait he put another one up using the same picture and a new username just days later! Once again he started writing as if we had never communicated before. What an idiot! Are you kidding me? I asked him if he was suffering from an identity crisis and amnesia. He was confused. He had no clue what I was referring to. I had to send him his previous user name and copies of the emails he had sent along with his profile pic. DELETE, BLOCK .... next!
I had to stop and ask myself "What the hell are you doing on here again?" Things have obviously not changed, nor will they. Sadly as I scrolled through profiles in the hopes of finding some new prospects, I came across the profiles of guys I knew well who were in relationships. Why do guys cheat? And on POF of all places where your face is posted for all to see? Sooner or later you're going to get caught, what's the point? This always leaves me feeling sick to my stomach and torn. Do I call my girlfriends and tell them? Should I print and send them the profile? If, no when I run into these guys in person, they will definitely get an earful. This is not acceptable, at least not to me. I would certainly want to know if my man was cheating on me.
Enough, I didn't want to read any more emails. While I was logged on, several more emails came in. This was not starting off very well, at least not the way I had hoped.
I'll give it a few days and build up the courage to read the other emails. Bye for now!
Dateless in Ottawa
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