I had received several more notifications of emails in POF so I logged in to see what interesting adventures awaited me.
3. Mr. Musician
The profile stated he was 53, widowed and had a young son. He was fairly tall, stocky with white long hair. Not my style, but I was keeping an open mind. According to his profile he was semi-retired and had sufficient income from various sources providing him with the luxury of not having to work if he didn't want to. This set off the first red flag. As I've said before, confidence is sexy, arrogance is a major turn off.
His profile was longer than most. He really liked talking about himself. I'll give him credit, it was extremely well written. The introductory email was also quite long. I decided not to respond right away, I had to think about it. It sound a bit padded and exaggerated, or perhaps I was already feeling jaded.
He must have noticed I was online because he wrote again and insisted I would be missing out on an awesome guy if I didn't meet him. More arrogance! I still waited another day before responding. He bragged about luxury vehicles, travelling the world during his rock band days and enjoying the finer things in life. He claimed to be very affectionate and had a higher than normal sex drive. Just what I needed to hear! So much for leaving some mystery and intrigue.
I finally responded and we quickly moved to the phone as I much prefer talking over endless emails.
This is when the truth came out. During our conversations I threw in a few questions. After a couple of conversations I quickly learned that all the information in the profile was a lie. Also, based on our conversations, I felt like he was much older than 53, but he insisted he wasn't.
Widowed = his wife had left him 2 years earlier then died unexpectedly of cancer which left him with his 10 year old son. He was living with someone else while on the verge of getting divorced. Not sure how he deemed himself to be widowed, nice try though. We had an interesting discussion over the definition of widowed. I take great offence when people use this classification to get sympathy and attention. By the way, he was 3 times divorced. Not a very good track record.
1 young son = plus he had 3 more children from other previous relationships. The oldest was 39! How could he possibly be 53? More inconsistencies.
Had enough income from various sources = he had not worked in years. Claimed to have enough in survivor benefits to live comfortably, yet went on and on about having just moved into a crappy one bedroom in a bad neighbourhood and not having a vehicle. I receive survivor benefits and can attest to the fact that they are everything but generous. Me and my kids would starve to death on the amount I receive.
What happened to his MGB convertible that he stored in the 1000 Islands, his SUV and his every day car? All of sudden he was selling the MGB because he needed money, but it needed $5K in work yet he needed to keep his fun car for the summer. He was also in the textile import business. Claiming to work with Marshalls and Winners waiting for a big deal to go through in the US. Travels to India and Indonesia were common because this is where he purchased the exotic fabrics, but when I asked him when was the last time he had visited these countries, it was almost 10 years ago. Yup, very active import business - NOT! Perfect example of a freeloader. His most recent girlfriend had dumped him. Apparently she lived downtown and owned a beautiful large home. She worked full-time and sounds like she wasn't thrilled to have to assume the role of Mom out of the blue either.
He had a higher than normal sex drive = he had to use Viagra on a regular basis. This further supported my suspicions that he was older than he claimed to be. Why a man feels the need to tell a woman he hasn't even met he needs to use Viagra, is beyond me.
Then he said he was going to go back to school in the US to become a lawyer. When he came back to Canada all he would need was 8 billable hours a week to live like a king. He was going to go to Harvard with a full scholarship. What? My goodness, not sure what reality he's living in.
He was so full of shit I could smell him through the phone. It was very sad that someone that age had to lie to that extent to make himself bigger and more important that he was. I felt really sorry for his 10 year old son. How sad. Not long after he updated his profile. In the openning line he admitted he was actually 64, but lowered his age on the profile so that he'd have access to a greater pool of younger women. Unbelievable!
I stopped all communication. Not the kind of person I need in my life. Thankfully he didn't have my number so couldn't call me.
NEXT!!!!
4. The Muscle Head
He was younger, separated and had 2 young boys. He was average height with a shaved head and covered in tattoos. According to the profile he lived close to me and was a mechanic.
The profile was extremely short. He was looking for someone affectionate and loving. To me this spells looking for sex. From my experience, separated usually means very married looking to screw around.
His introductory email was polite, so I wrote back. It was a simple, "Thanks for your email and for the compliment." He later responded that he didn't want to communicate on POF, he'd rather talk on Facebook. I declined, I'm not interested in sharing personal and family details with a complete stranger.
He wrote again and insisted that I add him as a friend on Facebook. I deleted his message and ignored other emails. He eventually stopped writing.
Then there were the usually emails soliciting sex or simply being rude. Delete, delete and delete!
Oh well, there's always tomorrow. Wish me luck, I think I'm going to need it badly. Lol
Dateless in Ottawa
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