After my Aunt went to bed, I called my guy. Even though we had just been together that night, I felt like I hadn't seen him in forever. I missed him. We talked for a while. I felt sad to be leaving Quebec City. What an adventure. My aunt had an amazing time. She got to see a city and various towns she had never been to, made a couple of new friends and most importantly, got to spend some quality time with the kids and me! Then there was my first meeting and my first date. She never could've prepared herself for that! I must say she was an awesome sport through all of it and an amazing cheerleader. We laughed so hard, I'll never forget this.
The following morning we were up early and took a taxi to the train station. The trip home was quiet and uneventful. Couldn't wait to see my babies. Dinner was ready when we got home and the kids were so happy to see me. I had only been gone 3 weeks, but they seemed to have changed so much. I took a few days off work to relax and get caught up. My aunt went back home, it was hard to say good-bye, but we'd see her in a few of weeks.
My guy came back home on the Sunday, but on his way back he called to say he'd be going to North Bay for an 8 week contract. He was going to stop at home to pack and would call me so we could meet briefly before he hit the road. It was a gorgeous day, so I packed up my girls and headed to the beach. I texted him a picture of us on the beach and told him I'd wait there until he called.
A few hours later he called and told me I wouldn't want to know where he was. This didn't sound good. When he saw the picture of me and the girls on the beach, he decided not to stop and see me. He didn't want to take me away from the girls. I was upset.
Him: "When I saw the picture, I couldn't take you away from the kids. You've been away for 3 weeks. I'll see you when I get back. Plus, I didn't want to see you for a few minutes. As if I'd be able to leave if I had you in my arms. It would've been more difficult for both of us. Enjoy your kids and the beach. I'm sorry, don't mean to hurt you. Trust me this is for the best."
I appreciated the consideration, but even 5 minutes with him would have been better than nothing. Oh well. For the next couple of weeks we talked and texted daily. We touched on a multitude of subjects and slowly got to know all about each other, the kids, work and life in general. It felt good. After we got back from holidays with family, I'd go up north for a long weekend. He was so excited.
Everyday was filled with laughter and I so looked forward to his nightly phone call. Three weeks later, that nightly phone call didn't happen. I found it odd, but they were working longer shifts so I figured he'd call when he could. The next day again, no phone call and no texts. This was out of the ordinary. I tried calling and left a message. Later on I sent a text. I went online to check the news to see if there had been an accident or maybe forest fires...who knows. I was worried. After months of talking daily this was weird.
Sadly there were no more texts or phone calls. We went on our family vacation and I never heard from him again. When we arrived at my Aunt's, the first thing she asked was, "How's -----?" I took her aside and told her he'd disappeared. I was so sad. She was shocked and told me that maybe there was a good reason or something had happened.
Aunt: "Don't give up, try one more time in a couple of days. There has to be a good reason. He seemed so genuine and sincere. He was very into you."
One by one other family members asked me the same thing. It was so hard not to break down in tears. My Aunt had filled them all in on our first meeting and first date. They were all so happy and excited for me. They couldn't wait to meet this guy. My cousin also encouraged me to call him one more time. A few days later I tried to call him again...no answer. I sent him one last text saying I hoped he was ok and wished him all the best.
It was done. A month later I mustered up the courage to log back into POF. Huge mistake! There was his profile, front and centre updated with new pictures. How could he do this? Why couldn't he be honest? Was it all lies? He had removed his profile when we started talking. Didn't take him long to throw in the towel and dive back into the pond. Why? I felt so stupid. How could I let myself fall so hard? Why do men do this? He seemed so honest and sincere. Another academy award winner.
Round 35 was officially over. Just when I thought my days of online dating had come to end. I guess there would be a round 36, but not for a while if at all. I'd have to lick my wounds while building up the strength and courage to start all over again. How demoralizing. Bye for now.
Dateless in Ottawa
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