So far this site is by far the most difficult to navigate, my IT challenges don't help either. Definitely not user friendly in my opinion, for whatever it’s worth. OK Cupid is advertised as a free online dating site, but there are some features you have to pay for. I’m still trying to figure this one out and how it works. Not sure what an A-List is or why I should pay for it.
I created a profile. For this site, you have to upload a picture
before it will allow you to continue. I was less than thrilled, as I'm simply checking these sites out and not interested in looking at this point. There must be a way to hide the profile and I better figure that out quick! Amazing
how much detail you can add about yourself.
There are several sections that you don’t have to fill out, but they
encourage you to include as much information about yourself as possible to
increase your chances. Funny how many
sites use the same line “to increase your chances.” Keep buying your Lotto Max tickets!
Once the profile is complete, they start sending you a series
of questions. The answers you provide
are used to find you matches. Well, I
was shocked at how many questions they ask.
The nice thing is some of the questions are related to preferences. Height is usually pretty big for me. I appreciated that they also ask about
religion and ethnic preferences. We
each know what is most important to us and what our deal breakers are, so I
thought this was good. I haven’t seen
questions like this on other sites when creating a profile. You can narrow down what you’re looking for
in advanced searches, but I don’t think the other sites use that information for the system
generated matches.
After answering several questions, they
just kept coming. It was endless. Good thing I was kind of bored
and killing some time. I think I wound up answering 100. Ultimately I think there are way too many
questions. Some were related to your
opinion on Trump and some of his ideas???
This seemed totally misplaced to me, I'm here to find love not fix the political problems of the world. Then they dove into the sexual questions. Go ahead and ask me if I like sex, but when
you start getting into questions about frequency, fetishes, kink, etc. now you’ve
gone overboard. These are areas to be explored with a partner
when and if you get there. Every
relationship is different. How can one predetermine frequency? This will vary
depending on your partner and many things can impact it. Not
necessary or appropriate questions in my opinion.
It was a long process and when I tried to do a search for guys within my city, there wasn't much. With millions of members one would assume there would be a large enough pool of potential candidates within your city.
Eventually they show you matches and you
click on an “x” if you’re not interested or a “√” if you are interested. With all the questions I answered you’d think
they’d have tons of matches for me, but sadly there were only 9! Not sure what happens when there’s a mutual
match. For the ones I chose an “x”, I
was not supposed to ever see those profiles again, but they are still able to
email me. I thought this was odd, if I'm not interested what's the point? Initially I thought maybe you could only communicate with men who you'd said yes you were interested, which would be better I think. As I mentioned previously, I’m
still trying to figure this one out, but I don’t like it.It was a long process and when I tried to do a search for guys within my city, there wasn't much. With millions of members one would assume there would be a large enough pool of potential candidates within your city.
Nice that you can receive and respond to emails without having to pay.
1. I’m in Canada, why are all the payments in US funds? Yes, many companies are based in the US, but you’d think the offices set up in other countries would charge based on their national currency.
2. If you change the search settings and remove the distance limit, you get all kinds of matches in the US. I will travel for love within reason, but Texas???
3. Surprise, surprise...many of the same guys are on POF.
Oh well, I tried. Won’t be keeping this account. The site is way too complicated for me and I just don’t have the time to figure it out.
Update: Interestingly enough, before I had a chance to delete the profile, a gentleman wrote. I struggled as I didn't set up the profile to find love. I was simply checking out the site so I could blog about it. The email was polite and he made the effort so I was compelled to respond. He was very funny and seemed nice. I was honest and explained why I created the profile. Not sure he believed me, but I was telling the truth.
Him: So you're not single?
Me: Yes I am.
Him: What's the type you normally date?
Me: Someone with a sense of humour.
Him: I guess I'm good for a date then :) :) :)
Stay tuned, I'll keep you posted on what happens. This was so unexpected. Maybe it's true, when you least expect it things happen.
Another guy also wrote, but I recognized him right away. He had written on POF several times. He's one of those that writes fast and furious for several days oozing with compliments, then all of a sudden he deletes his profile. He then creates a new one and writes to you again as if he's never contacted you before. It's quite odd. No thanks, delete!
This site sends you emails with matches and notifies you when you receive an email. Not sure whether you can control the settings, but most of the online dating sites do this. I didn't find it was an excessive amount of emails. I stand by my decision of not paying to find love.
Just because I didn't like it, doesn't mean it won't work for you, try it and see!
Dateless in Ottawa
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