For those of you have used or are using online dating, you encounter all kinds of individuals. We get our share of strange emails and interactions. Remaining friends is a great option when I meet a guy who is nice, but we just don't have the chemistry to build a relationship. Online dating can result in a number of different types of relationships, friendship being one of them. It could be because we have a hobby or interest in common. Career wise networking is important and different people can have skills that can add to our lives or help with advancement. Alternatively if I can help someone, it makes me feel good.
Over the years I've stayed friends with some of the guys I've met. Having someone you can call when a question comes up in an area of their expertise is awesome. Car repairs is a perfect example! Construction, taxes and computers are others. Nice to have people around whose company you enjoy. Why eat alone or spend a weekend at home bored?
Let's back track to bachelor #40 - Mr. Navy. Due to his indecisiveness (amoung other things), he was definitely not for me, but I enjoyed our conversations and later on my son was able to shadow him at work for a school project. Not long after I ended things, he met someone else. They're still together. We stay in touch casually on Facebook and went to a movie before he met his new girlfriend. The odd time we'll run into each other through work. Last time he was with a client and he went on and on about how great I was. The poor client was trying to talk business and at a loss for words. I finally excused myself, but he made it a point to come and find me before he left.
One day out of the blue he texted. We chatted for a bit. He caught me off guard because it was 1:00 am and he's not a night owl. He started sending me the lyrics of his favourite Spanish song. It sounded like he was melancholy and lonely, might have even been drinking because he wasn't making any sense. All of a sudden in mid conversation he says, "Exactly one year ago today we were tanning in my backyard." I didn't know what to say. When you're in a relationship with someone else, why contact someone you dated previously to mention that? Nice thing to remember on your anniversary when you're with the same person, but it seemed out of place especially since we only dated for a couple of weeks.
He sent a message for my birthday. A while later when planning a group trip to Cuba, he emailed to ask if I was interested in joining. I couldn't go at that time, but thanked him for thinking of me. Then he said we should meet for drinks so he could brush up on his Spanish. I found it odd and decided to call it a night. He had a bad track record for making plans, so if he wanted to meet for drinks he could make the plans. He made it a point to remind me that he was still going out with the same person. I told him I was seeing someone too. I didn't hear from him again for a long while.
Just recently he started texting again late one night. He mentioned he was going to Cuba with his girlfriend in a few weeks. I wished him a good trip then he asked me if I'd like to go with them. This seemed really odd. A vacation would be awesome, but I don't think that would be a good idea. I appreciated the offer, but turned him down. Then he says, "This weather has been so unpredictable. Two years ago today you and I were taking in the sun in my backyard." Ok, so now he's been with this chick for close to 2 years and apparently it's serious. Why contact me to reminisce about a date that happened 2 years ago and ask me to join them on their trip? Sure, I'll be the third wheel....NOT! Very weird if you ask me. How would he introduce me? This is ------, we dated for a couple of weeks and tanned in my backyard 2 years ago. Not too awkward, I'm sure his girlfriend would be thrilled to have me along.
I guess I should be grateful, interactions like these make life more interesting. Maybe next time I'll say yes to joining them on a trip. Wouldn't that be interesting. If it ever happens, I'll write a post on my blog and fill you all in! Lol
P.S. Had to add more to this post. So, there's a work event coming up in a few weeks and Mr. Navy wrote to ask me if I'd be there cause he can't wait to see me. For the life of me, I'll never understand men.
P.P.S. He found me at the work event. It was busy and he tried to carry on a conversation in Spanish. I had to get back to work. We hadn't seen each other in about a year. As we age we change, some for the better others....I'll leave it at that.
Have fun and feel free to share some of your unusual stories.
Dateless in Ottawa
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